Thursday, April 28, 2016

SOS: baby names

So hands down one of the most aggravating things about the impending arrival of our newest family member is trying to agree on a name.

We had a girl name that we both loved (Elsie), but within a week of landing on it I came across multiple articles that predicted it to be one of the most popular baby names of 2016. Being the hipster that I am, that just won't fly.

I should also say that I think we should deviate from the 'E' names (it wasn't intentional with the two we had! They just happened to be our favorites!), but Jon is convinced BT will get a complex if he/she is the only one without an E name.

And we just can't agree on an E name.

We have a boy name that we are both lukewarm on and that will likely be the front runner, but until we commit I'm keeping it mum.

Girl names are hopeless. My top pick is Etta but Jon isn't on board. Jon's top pick is Ellie Mae, but I really don't want my child named after a Beverly Hillbilly.

We've stopped discussing it because we were getting nowhere. We have so many friends whose kids' names start with 'E', and then most of our favorites are predicted to be super popular this year, so we're at a loss. If you have any suggestions or ideas, please send them our way!

Saturday, April 16, 2016

remembering phoenix

A little over 9 years ago, Jon and his dad packed up his BMW to make the two-day drive to Phoenix so Jon could become an audio engineer. We had only been "officially" dating for about a month at that point and as they drove away I wasn't sure what to expect. I was confident that we would survive (it was just a 10-month program and he would be joining me in Chicago in November) but I was also nervous about what the future would look like.

Over the next 10 months I was able to visit Phoenix twice and Jon came home for my high school graduation party. When I visited him, it was our first real experience of adulthood--he had an apartment and had to fend for himself. While he was in class four hours a day, I would sit in his 85-degree apartment (that was with the AC on... I made it a point to remind him 500 times a day that 85 is NOT air conditioning) and picture what our lives would look like once we had both graduated. Before his class was over, I would usually cook dinner for us so that it was ready when he got home.
first visit: May 2007, right after getting my Associate of Science
Some of the best memories of our relationship are from these times in Arizona. I've been really sentimental about it lately--something about how carefree we were just really speaks to me (two and a half kids will do that to you). With the exception of one whirlwind trip to San Diego to go to the zoo (which involved a super weird alien town along the Arizona/Mexico border; Jon freaking out thinking he had taken a wrong turn and we were about to enter Mexico; the most insane stars you'll ever experience in your life; the fact that Jon's car broke down and his cousin had to rescue us and fix it so we could get back to Phoenix in time for his next class) we really didn't do much. We ate at a few restaurants. Went to the Chandler mall. Bought a box fan at Walmart because I thought I might actually have a heat stroke. But we were together, and at 18-years-old that was all we really needed. For four or five days, it was pretty much just us since that was B.S. (Before Smartphones). We watched tv, laughed over stupid things, and just spent wonderful, uninterrupted time together. It was always so hard to leave at the end of the week, but it was also easier knowing it wasn't going to be a multi-year separation.
second visit: over my fall break, October 2007
We daydream about going back and visiting. Actually, it's mostly Jon who daydreams because I wasn't particularly fond of Arizona. Too hot. But Phoenix was so good to us and I am so glad that we got to spend so much time together before we ever got engaged or married. I got to experience the wonders of Jack in the Box, try my first Sonic slush, and laugh with the one person who has truly ever 'gotten' me. I'm the luckiest.

Friday, April 15, 2016

five on friday (new baby edition)

In total third child form, we are not doing/buying much for this baby. It helps that Edith is going to move into the playroom so we can keep the nursery exactly the same and that we have most of the furniture already for her big girl room (with the exception of a new mattress/box spring and end table). In any case, these are the main things we plan on buying for Baby Turkey:

{1} White noise machine. These suckers have been our saving grace with the kids, so we will be buying BT his or her own.

{2} Video monitor. When you are downstairs you can't hear the kids calling for you or crying. Elden is 3.5 and we still have an audio monitor in his room so we can hear him when he calls for us at night. Therefore, we need to add a third monitor to our nightstands! We LOVE the video monitor so we plan on doing this again.

{3} Take-home outfit. We actually already bought one on sale for $9.99 from H&M that will be perfect for a little boy or girl! It is similar to this outfit except it is fuzzy, taupe-colored and the ears look like bear ears.

{4} Diono Radian RXT car seat. I have raved about this car seat before and both of the kids are currently in them. We still have the infant bucket seat that we use pretty much until our kids stop sleeping consistently in the car (since a bucket seat allows you to click them in and out without waking them up), but once BT graduates from the infant seat we will be purchasing a third Radian.

{5} Bottles, pacifiers and a few new clothing items. Jon and I decided to toss all of our existing pacifiers and bottles once we have Edith fully weaned off them to buy new. Our bottles are pretty beat up (they were cheap considering both kids preferred them over the fancy bottles, so no big loss there) and both the kids preferred different types of pacifiers, so we are going to buy BT some new ones. While we have several tubs of both boy and girl clothes, we will also be purchasing the baby some new staples. We both love the side snap bodysuits so I plan on buying a few of those.

Friday, April 8, 2016

on being outnumbered

I'd be lying to you if I said I was totally ready to be welcoming another baby into our family. The truth is that I am absolutely terrified of what the future holds for us. Part of the reason we couldn't make the decision to actively try for another child is because I just can't wrap my mind around how it will look for our family. It's not even really major stuff like finances that has had me caught up since we first started talking about it. It's trivial stuff like we will have to put someone in the third row of the van and UGH! what a hassle that will be. Or, which child will be moved into the current playroom/guest room, which is about twice the size of the other two bedrooms? I suppose there are bigger things, too--the typical parental concern that I won't have enough love to devote to another baby and how will I share my time equally between the kids so they don't feel neglected?

Up until the viability scan these concerns were ever-present, easily outweighing joy. Not to mention the toll pregnancy has already taken on me... I have had more than one mental breakdown over the fact that I am miserable now and holy cow, I suddenly remembered how horrible the last 2 or so months of pregnancy are to my body. (Also, why is it I couldn't remember these things before I got pregnant again?) But now that we got to see the little peanut, watch its heart flickering, and see its arms moving (still totally blown away by that), the joy is starting to take the reigns. I am doing everything I can to be appreciative of this pregnancy but I will be the first to admit I can really suck at being appreciative. I know there are women who would kill to be miserably sick and that makes me feel like a really crummy human. I also know that I can't beat myself up over that because I am allowed to be tired and sick and frustrated.

I will continue to try to take this pregnancy one day at a time. It certainly helps that my morning sickness is starting to subside--now it comes in waves instead of being constant--while also trying not to have a total anxiety attack at the thought of having to switch to "zone defense" (thanks for the tips, Jacquelyn!) and share my lap with three kids. One thing I am holding onto is the wisdom a friend shared with me: "It helps when I'm having a crazy day to know 'but this is temporary because they're all going to grow up and there aren't any more littles after these.'" - This may not be entirely true for our family if we do go on to adopt, but it certainly helps me find peace in the meantime. If we adopt, odds are it won't be a newborn, so I am holding onto the idea of only enduring the newborn sleeplessness stage one more time. I am also relieved at this being the last time I experience pregnancy and childbirth (ahem, recovery from childbirth).

Tuesday, April 5, 2016

first pictures

Had Baby Turkey's first ultrasound today! 
BT was measuring 9+2 (I'm 9+1, so due date is staying the same) and the heart rate was 176 bpm. The craziest part is that we actually saw the baby moving! Its little arms were wiggling around and it was seriously the most amazing thing I've ever seen. 

I'm scheduled for monthly appointments and even have the big anatomical scan on the calendar already. Today my morning sickness feels a little better so I'm hoping that this is the beginning of the end of that. 

Huge thanks to Sam and David who let us drop the kids off before the appointment so we didn't have to worry about entertaining them the whole time. You guys are heroes!

Monday, April 4, 2016

here (barely)

I am in my ninth week of pregnancy, and similar to the others, feel like I am on death's door.

The fatigue is unreal - I have been napping almost every day and going to bed as soon as Elden is down for the night (re: 8 pm). I am barely able to eat and I am sore (and I'm sure my poor diet is also contributing to the fatigue).

So basically, it's been survival mode in our house. The house itself is a disaster, although Jon has really stepped up and pulled my weight. Elden keeps why the baby is making me so sick and I'm a little concerned he is building up some resentment towards his unborn sibling as a result. We go this week for the dating ultrasound to make sure the baby is indeed in my uterus and not a tube, as well as to look for appropriate growth and heartbeat. Also, to confirm there is only 1 (please, sweet Jesus, let there just be 1). We hope that everything is growing as expected and we hear a strong heartbeat, and given my current symptoms I am optimistic that this will be the case, but we welcome your prayers on our behalf.