I've got to lay my heart out bare here: I have grown completely disenchanted with the Christian population as a whole. That's not to say I think every Christian is a horrible example of Jesus' call (although I'll readily admit that I am) or that they've lost sight of who exactly Jesus was. But the presidential election showed me a side to a whole lot of Christians whom I previously admired that broke me.
I can't tell you how many people told me they didn't like Trump but that his party was more "in line with my moral beliefs" and so they were voting for him. The two fundamental items they were referencing were the sanctity of marriage and life. Less important to their morality was apparently sexual assault, equal rights, religious liberties (for all religions, not just Christianity), and a general regard for all of humanity that isn't a rich, middle-aged white guy, but I digress.
I am an egalitarian. I think the biggest shock to me was how many women openly supported Trump. A man who has bragged about his affairs (where's the marital sanctity there?), been accused by a plethora of women for sexual assault or harassment--including bragging about grabbing women by the pussy, raised a son who thinks if women "can't handle" workplace sexual harassment they "don't belong in the workforce," etc. A bigger surprise to me was Christian women who voted for Trump. And then I realized: women in the church are historically taught that we are merely helpers. We do not have a voice. Our job is to support our husbands and be gentle and quiet. To be submissive since we are "the weaker vessel." It has been ingrained in us that we are less than. There's also the boys will be boys mentality that runs deep through the church lifeblood. Things like the True Love Waits movement that emphasizes the abstinence onus lies on girls--after all, teenage boys are driven by hormones and surely have no self control* whatsoever. Our Christian leaders have failed us as women. I refuse to raise my daughters--and especially my son--to this standard. This just touches on my opinions regarding respecting women and doesn't go anywhere near the multitude of examples of where Trump has lied, mocked, degraded and harassed anyone who isn't a wealthy, white, Christian man. To me, none of that sounds particularly loving.
And I know those last two paragraphs are going to render a whole lot of defensive counters about why none of that matters and it's all about picking the issues that mean the most to you and supporting those, the lesser of two evils, etc. But the reality is, it's not like Trump became the Republican nominee out of nowhere. He won the nomination, which means there were a whole lot of other candidates who actually stood more in line with Christians' pro-life and sanctity of marriage beliefs than Trump, yet they voted for him anyway.
In the words of my incredibly wise and talented friend, Ali, "Love is hard and it costs a lot and it can be downright dangerous. And the highest example we [as Christians] are given to follow is the one of a man who went so far as to be tortured to death for the sake of it." When I think of love, I do not think of Donald Trump. When I think of love, I do not think of the vile things I've heard people--Christians, especially--spew in their defense of voting for him.
I was wrong about Obama. I was sure he would be the demise of our country when he was elected eight years ago. Today I proudly admit just how wrong I was--I genuinely believe he did (or at least tried to do, if only our population was less misogynistic, racist, etc.) more for our country in terms of unity and reconciliation than any in recent memory. Barack Obama was a man who was actually qualified for his position in government and whose character didn't result in classic narcissist Twitter tirades when someone criticized him. I hope in four or eight years I will be able to say I was wrong about Trump, too.
*for the record, the word you are looking for is 'discipline,' and we are failing our boys if we don't teach them this critical life skill